[00:00:00] Welcome to the UFFDA! Podcast hosted by Emily O'Connor and Jordan Rudolph. The UFFDA! Podcast brings you a surprisingly fresh take on everyday topics in health, fitness and everything in between. We want to open the door to explore new information and new solutions in a way that's easy for you to understand and apply to your own life.
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Hello everybody, welcome back to the UFFDA! Podcast. We're on season 4, episode 29.
I'm Jordan Rudolph. And I'm Emily Morris. Happy to be with you as we enter season 4. As we close out 2024, as we get ready to enter in 2025, um, [00:01:00] and, uh, Christmas right around the corner. Yeah. If you're listening to this. Yeah. Coming, coming up fast. I feel like it was just the beginning of December and now it's Christmas, which is, I also feel like it's the beginning of 2024 and now it's almost 2025, so.
Yeah. A little bit above. The year, the year's been, yeah, it's, it's been piping, piping hot, if you will. Yeah. Um. Interested to see how 2025 is going like we're already at the end of the year. We're already a month into What I kind of consider this winter as soon as the golf clubs go up. I'm like, all right winter started We're we're there so um as we dive into this new year when motivation seems to be Uh, like an uptick a little bit in most people not just in their health and fitness goals But we all know that health and fitness goals are usually a top one two or three in most people's aspirational um goals or lists at the beginning of the new year of what they want to achieve.
We're going to take a stab at a little mind training, if you will, that [00:02:00] really brings on, uh, full circle, the be do have exercise that we did a few podcast episodes ago. It's actually in two parts. So if you've not listened to be, you have. When you are done with this episode, go back and listen to Part 1 It's in Season 4, literally just 3, 4, 5 episodes ago, maybe?
Yeah, I don't think It's recent. It's very recent. It's very recent. And it's titled, Bead You Have. So, I would just go check that out. Yeah, even better. It's very easy. So, that, this is like a, this is like an extra piece to that concept. And, we, we were just talking about it before the show. Uh, of, of what to call this episode.
And it's act as if that's the thing that was, when we say it, I was like, Oh yeah, Em, that's, that's exactly what we should call it. But Em, I want you to kind of take this over. You were, when we were talking about this and what we'll dive into here in a moment, you were saying, well, it's just act as if you've already been there.
Act as if, and one of the big things that I [00:03:00] remember, I think it was earlier this year, maybe sometime recently, uh, within the last about year, but it was, I There's a there's a I think there's a song somewhere out there, but it kind of goes through that same type of thing and it was if you if you're racing if you're competing if you are Trying to achieve something like act as if you've been there and it's not so much the deserve or the earn but put yourself in the in that mind frame that when you're at the finish line or on the podium or achieving the success and As an entrepreneur, as a health and fitness, as a career path, whatever it is, act as if you've been there.
Like, put things together in your head that show, portray, and live that identity of who you are. For when that goal is achieved. Mm hmm. Well, that's that's exactly it. Like I don't know when I first heard like the phrase Act as if but I feel like it was in the context of [00:04:00] just that right when we want to achieve something when we want to When succeed, when we want to reach an end point, one of the easiest things we can start doing is just acting as if we are already there or we've already done the thing, right?
If it's winning an event, right? The visualization that comes from acting as if we've already won can sometimes be just as powerful as all the actions leading up to it, right? Visualizing ourselves Oh! Achieving an award, winning the event, whatever that might be, like the visualization piece is huge there.
So when we talk about kind of this extension of and bringing Be, Do, Have full circle, it really comes into play, and this won't surprise anyone, that action is a massive, massive, if not the biggest, part of that, right? We have to act, we have to start changing our behavior [00:05:00] as if we are already that person who we want to become.
And, again, if you haven't listened to that B2Have, make sure you're doing that, because this will make a lot more sense. But, um, when we start to think about who we want to become in the future, we have these characteristics, and there's this list of habits or maybe behaviors or things that that person does.
We can start doing those things today, even if we don't feel like that person, right? And that can paint both a starting point of, hey, where do I even start taking action? But it can also start to flip, like Jordan was saying in the beginning of the episode. Our mindset on, hey, we need to create the mindset behind that person.
Because we can go through all the actions, but if they feel foreign, if it's not who we are, it will only get us so far. And you have to be okay with being [00:06:00] so far. Like, if that's all you want, you have to be okay with it. But you can't be hard on yourself. You have to have grace. You can't be disappointed in yourself if that's all you wanted.
Does that kind of make sense for what you were saying? You have to be okay with it if you're okay with only so far. Right. Well, and that's okay too. I think the struggle comes into play and the piece that's missing there is a lot of people Say they're okay where they are, but really when we think about deep down, they want more, they want different, they want better.
But we are unwilling or unable maybe, in each scenario, to make the change to do the things required to be there. In which case the question is, do you really want that, or are you just saying that you want that? Right, so are you having that debate in your head of like, Oh, well I Oh, well, I'm like, if you, if there's that turmoil there, that little bit of hesitancy, like you, you're essentially it's posing, right?
Like it's [00:07:00] not actually what you wanted, like you wanted something else more than what you claimed that you wanted. So there's a conflict. We have to figure out that conflict. We have to get you in alignment. That's, that's what ultimately it comes down to. Well, and it's intentionality, right? Like to use a specific example, let's use a nutrition one.
pertinent to the season. If we're eating Christmas cookies for breakfast, right, but we say that our goal is weight loss. Our actions and our end goal do not align. I think we can all agree that Christmas cookies for breakfast perhaps are not the ideal way to lose body fat. I think we could probably be in alignment there.
That said, if you want to have Christmas cookies for breakfast on Christmas Day because that's the tradition and you're fully in and we're all in and that is the intentional decision we're making, great. Our actions are aligned with our goals. Merry Christmas! But if we're sitting here [00:08:00] beating ourselves up over, gosh, I really want to lose weight, but then at the same time choosing to have Christmas cookies for breakfast, we need to do some deeper thinking there and start to align what does the person who has lost the weight, what do they have for breakfast?
And I don't want to give you an answer, but the answer is probably not Christmas cookies for breakfast. And when you check your weight, then two weeks later, You, this is where the grace comes in. Okay, you went through your holidays, you went through your, your Christmas Day, you went through your parties, you went through New Year's, whatever it is.
If, if you didn't actively be aligned or try to help with this scenario, and, and, and if you really wanted weight loss, and you still could, we would have made some different choices or moves there. We would have acted differently. We would have acted as if maybe you had already lost the weight. So if you're This version of you of weight loss is a great example for us to just dive into on this.
If you're somebody who wants to lose 20 pounds, you put yourself where you're [00:09:00] in right now as you exist today, and just say that that's person A, that's point A. Let's go to point B, which might say, maybe, maybe it's further down, but let's just go to this second person. Let's just go to this person of you, this version of you, that's 20 pounds down.
So if it's 200 pounds to 180, 180 to 160, 160, 140, whatever it is, what's different about that version of you as it exists today, right now, and the version of you that's 20 pounds less. And when we say like the version that we're referring to here, it's the, it's the actions, it's the routines, it's the discipline if you want to go that far, the habits.
The things that that person is doing, or not doing, that's different from where you are today. Are the actions different? And for an example, it might say, I need to stop eating out so much. I need to stop eating Christmas cookies for breakfast every day. [00:10:00] It might say I need to drink more water. It might say I need to drink, I need to sleep more.
It might say I need to get better at going back into the gym. There's tons of different things that will be on this list, but you should make a list of the differences. For And now the act as if part is you start acting like that person today. Right now, start doing the things that that person would be doing.
Start believing and start training your brain to be in sync with that so that you can get out of this wishy washy conflict, misalignment, unalignment thing. Because what's happening is underneath, your subconscious believes that you're still 20 pounds overweight or whatever it is and it's limiting beliefs will help Basically have you function as you are right now With all of that underlying all of that underneath without you even realizing it Like you're going through your habits of the person.
That's 20 pounds overweight But if you start training your [00:11:00] brain to start acting doing and seeing that list and being that person now today As if you were already there We trick the subconscious mind to start helping you do those things So you don't have to work so hard to do it, and it feels like you're more in alignment.
Well, and that's, that's the magic of it, right? It becomes no longer actions and habits and things that you're doing, but it becomes, to reference again towards the beat you have, Who you are, right? And it becomes doing and having exactly. It just becomes the thing that you do. You don't have to think about carving out the time to plan the meals and meal prep.
Nope. You just do it. Cause that's what you do as a person, right? Like I, as someone who's meal prepped lunches for years, it's. No, like every weekend, it's just a thing that's on my list, right? Like I, I don't even think about carving out the time to do it, even though it takes amount of time to do it, but it just has become the thing that I do.
And other habits [00:12:00] follow suit with that. Depending on you, depending on your goals, it becomes who you are. And then you have the things that you want to have that that person has. This is essentially when we talk about creating a plan. Um, in, in kind of creating a new routine, maybe having discipline, like all of these things go in there.
But what happens is it's, it's one, this is where B2Hab comes into play. You're always told what to do. Oh, you should do it like this. You should do this. You should do how, how like this, but you're not told who you need to be. This is our concept of taking B2Hab and making sure that you understand what that difference is now, not just the person that you need to be today of this new identity, but also taking this towards your goals.
This is a more specific. thing that we can take the rabbit hole down and go, but you need to do this. This is what people miss. They try to continue to being the exact same person today and staying in that version or identity without considering the differences of all that, of who they need [00:13:00] to be. That's where B2H comes into play.
Now we double down on that and act as if we were already that person all along. I, when we first started thinking about this, when we first started going through B2H, My. I first thought of it as, like, sometimes people in the past, like, I feel like when we've coached people, when I've coached people, we've stumbled on this on accident, right, like, it's become who they are because they've been so disciplined, willpower is high, motivation is high, whatever word you want to put there, but by flipping it, by becoming the person first, and then the habits just follow that, it's like a cheat code.
Expressway to where you want to be. You don't have to fight through it. Right? So it's almost flipping the script on what we think is the starting point and putting the actual starting point first, instead of circling back later. But you're going to get there eventually, so let's do it the more efficient way.
Right, so do you want to just keep throwing darts at the board and see what sticks? Do you [00:14:00] just want to try some random shit? Do you want to be a little bit, uh, Mandy, my wife, uh, says Uh, I shouldn't say this word anymore, but do you want to be schizophrenic on your diet or routine? She doesn't think the word schizophrenic dieting and schizophrenic exercising is the proper term anymore.
Until somebody tells me to not, I'm going to keep going with it. But it helps get me the example because you can't keep switching to one thing to the next. The version of you that's 20 pounds less does not do that. They know what worked, and they know who they are. A person that doesn't think that they have the courage, the capability, the confidence to keep going with something will keep changing everything all the time, or keep backing off.
So you have to commit. Stay committed and go. And to follow up on that, part two, I found my post, it was actually from three years ago, not last year, but I've referenced it multiple times in these other posts that I've gone through. And I've said it in different ways, I've not used the word as if, but three years ago, my, my caption was be there like you planned for it.[00:15:00]
So just be there, put yourself there now. And don't let this all stuff be up to random or for, for, uh, a hope, right? Like we can put these things into play, but you have to be that person first. We, we have made this mistake as coaches by just pouring on the habits and the routines and the disciplines.
We're not wrong, but we need to make sure the person's ready to be there first. Right. And if 20 pounds seems, I am not ready for that version of myself. You should try it. And then, if that's too much still, what does a five pounds down person do differently? Is there one thing from you being where you are now and being five pounds less that you'd have to do?
If there's one thing, then just start doing that. Keep that super simple. And it might be stop eating the damn Christmas cookies every day for breakfast. Just, just not every day. Yeah. It's, it's, if, if, if we were running, if we were competing in a Spartan race tomorrow, we'd be like, Would we be [00:16:00] hammering, A, would we be working today, B, would we be hammering beers last night?
We weren't doing this. This is hypothetical. Would we be hammering beer? Speak for yourself. I'm just kidding. Hammering beers last night. Uh, going off of five or six hours of sleep would be trying to be polished up by nutrition like everything else. Right. So, people all of a sudden, when they get closer to the deadline, they start acting differently.
Mm hmm. Right? But if we start bringing that deadline and just saying screw the deadline, we know that there's a date there. But what would that person be doing differently now or then? Do it now. Act as if you're already there. Act as if you're already that person. And the super sneaky, very secret hint to this is you are that person already.
You just have to realize it and commit to being that person. I can think of no better way to end the episode. As always, thank you guys so much for tuning in to this week's episode of the UFFDA! Podcast. Share this with someone who you think will find it valuable. Leave us a rating, a [00:17:00] review, subscribe, download all the things that help us to grow organically, and we'll catch you in the next episode.
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