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Introduction and Episode Number Confusion
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Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the UFFDA! Podcast. I'm Jordan Rudolph.
And I'm Emily Morris.
Happy to be back with you on Season 4, Episode 35? 6.
36.
6. I know you just said it.
That's okay. 36.
Episode 36.
For the listeners, they don't know that, but yeah, episode 36.
Yeah. I asked Emily [00:01:00] three times and then I forgot what it was. But it's like, Mandy was saying something to me earlier today, like a good thing.
Like she's, she's delivering good news to me. And, and, and I'm like, I was talking to her and, and I walked away. I'm like, wait, like, what did you say? Let me have that again. Oh, so whoever's listening, however you're listening. We're glad that you're here. We're happy that you're here.
Today's Topic: Entitled Health and Fitness
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Um, today we're talking, we're tackling a topic.
Um, that's probably a little bit more, uh, next level for a lot of our people to hear this. Uh, obviously by the title and what you've seen on there, it's, it's called Entitled Health and Fitness. Um, and we'll, we'll go into the episode of what that actually means and why we came up with this topic. Um, and take you down a little bit of a rabbit hole to make sure that you don't fall for that trap.
And, and how you can keep growing and stay open. Uh, and keep developing in a, in a process and progress way that, uh, that you want for results.
Yeah.
Mindset and Its Impact on Health and Fitness
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And I think for those [00:02:00] of you that have been, uh, Listeners, if this is not your first episode, if it is, thanks for tuning in, you've picked quite the episode to jump in on, but if it's not your first episode, um, we have talked a lot about different mindset things, I would say more recently, like over the past year or so, especially in this past season of the UFDA podcast, versus Transcribed prior ones.
And this topic to me kind of brings both of those things together where we're bridging our health and our fitness with some of our mindset work and our development work where both things can really thrive and excel and make sure that we're not falling into a trap where our mindset might be holding us back specifically as it relates to our work in the gym, not necessarily the outside, not necessarily the.
sleep or the diet or the stress or anything like that, but specifically as it relates to Training at least in this episode certainly can be applied to the other things as well fitness and [00:03:00] training related
Do you believe that like mindset and development are are an integral part and a big part of overall health and fitness?
Certainly.
Do you want to tell the listeners why? Yeah, because I I mean, I think they need to hear it Um, and i'm also i'm curious Um, from your specific viewpoint on it, but I think there's also a reason why you and I have been so called to talk more about that specific thing over the last year on this show.
Right. Well, if you've, not to keep referring, I feel like every podcast lately I've been referencing past episodes. Continuing to reference past episodes, um, if you've listened to some of my solo ones diving into like the language and the thoughts that we use, right, we know that how we think about something influences our words, influences then the stories that we tell ourselves, which influences our actions and how we behave.
But the start of that cycle is our thoughts, is our mindset. Right? So when we look at mindset, like really to define [00:04:00] what that is, is a pattern of how we are thinking about something, right? It's all of the different intricacies and overlapping ideas that we have that have been formed from past experiences, how we grew up, what we've learned, our knowledge around specific things, what's worked for us, maybe experimentation.
And all of those come together to create our view and our mindset, so to speak, on something. So, when we think health and fitness, Mindset is key. It's the start of how we look at our health and fitness. Are we looking at our health as something that we are able to have, that we are capable of developing?
Or are we just looking at it as, oh, this thing that those other people have, right? Do we adopt the identity then and the mindset of someone who has the things that we want to have and therefore can take the actions to get them? So when we think Overall health, certainly, and I didn't even touch on mental [00:05:00] health being a part of just the definition of health.
Um, but from a health and fitness standpoint, mindset is key to all of that.
The Role of Openness and Growth Mindset
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And like you were saying, Jordan, touching on that for us and being called to kind of touch on that a lot more lately, because I think we've seen more of the power of addressing the mindset and how much further we can take it versus Hey, we're just going to come in.
We're going to squat. We're going to focus on the sets and focus on the reps, all important things. But the mindset underlies or umbrellas all of those in a huge way.
I, I, the thing that I keep thinking about when you say that Emma's is the way you think about anything is the way you think about everything.
So if that mindset is thinking one thing in a specific way, like everything's going to be thought of in that way. And it's going to impact every area of your life. And that mindset, uh, then the entitlement part comes in a little bit, where that mindset then if it stays fixed, or if it stays [00:06:00] very closed off, and we think that everything that we currently know, or think that we know, is supposed to X, Y, Z, it makes it very difficult for you to be open or adapt to actually make the progress needed to get to where you want to go.
Uh, and the other part of that I thought of when you were saying that too, I actually used it today, so at the time of this recording it's a Thursday before the Monday that it's released, I went and spoke, uh, at a guest lecture for a, uh, a bunch of 18 graduating seniors at one of the local universities here from their exercise sports science program, more on the professional side of things and their career in the business of it.
Um, but I told them there, like, I think one of the things that I see the most out of young coaches coming out of the universities these days is, uh, Our entitlement are entitled coaches and how experiences is barely basically nulled to them like the experience doesn't matter. I have a degree. I don't need a certification or why do I need a certification?
And it's and it's a defensive back towards us. Um, and they and they don't view experience as a big thing and they don't view continued education [00:07:00] beyond what they already have as a big thing. They're very closed off to it. And they think the hard part is because they think that they're good enough and to an extent they are.
They may be good enough to get hired. They may be good enough to start their career on this. Um, but the big thing I told them is like the moment that you think that you're good enough or that you know everything is already, uh, you're already making your step back to mediocrity. And it was crickets in the room, right?
They all just stared and I said it again and I kind of looked at everybody and was still like silence again. I'm like, okay, we're on the right page here. Um, but I was expressing how having gratitude and being open and being growth mindset based and having abundance and an abundance mindset. All of those things play a role in health and fitness and how we help people realize that.
We, one of the big things as coaches is that we help people think differently about their thinking. And we now understand as we've been doing this for over a decade, each of us, right? Are you at a decade yet? Are you at 10 years? Yeah. Yeah. I'm at twelve and a half. Right? I'm just over ten. Yeah. We [00:08:00] both have a decade under our belt.
Which is crazy. Right? A decade under our belt. We know that we've, and we'll full flat out say this, we've let a lot of people down because we did not address the development or the way that they're thinking about things. Either A, we did not know what we knew now, we were not fully confident or able to help that person, or that person was so closed off that they didn't want to hear what we had to say.
Now that we understand more and more each day, and we're also intentionally seeking more and more of this information each day, we understand how critical that mindset and that development piece is to the overall progress and the sustainable results. And it's by far the people that are open to understanding and opening themselves up to this are the ones that are getting the most success.
For sure. I mean, it's the openness that's key, right? We've talked about it prior to in, you just said it again there, in terms of The willingness to try and the experimentation and what [00:09:00] you were just saying and how you were saying it, right. It's that lack of judgment. We're not judging ourselves necessarily for what we think we know or what we know or what we've done.
It's simply trying something new and being open to the fact that what we've thought and what we've held to be true might not actually be the thing that gets us there. Right. Look, I just had two conversations today. Okay. They're now changing some stuff on our just a half kneel stance not to stray from the mindset things But we learned something new about from a half kneel stance side and I had to go back to two clients today like hey I know you just started with me last week.
And this is what I hammered home about this but surprise we're doing it differently, right? We learn differently we learn different things.
We've been hammering it home here for almost 10 years forever.
Yeah, right So now it's hey, we learned something new Now we do better. We do differently, whatever that might be.
And that holds true then as we take it through to our mindset work of it's okay to say we haven't learned something correctly in the past or [00:10:00] to hold something to we've held something to be true in the past that's now not at the same time. Being open there underlies all that. We have to be open in order to do that.
Otherwise we're stuck on the things that have happened, why it hasn't worked for us, why we aren't getting the results that we want to, right. We're trying to do the same thing over and over and over and expecting a different result. Right. Definition of insanity. Right. I think pretty sure
loose definition
ish.
It's a definition of something. Um, anyway, I digress, but. We have to have that openness to be willing to try, to see the opportunity that lies ahead, or that may lie ahead, when we do so, as well.
Entitlement in Health and Fitness
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And, and when we, when we talk about the title, uh, of this episode, um, it can come from different things, but as I ask the question to you, What [00:11:00] does entitlement mean to you?
What does an entitled person mean? Like, like we already have a negative feel. Right? Like it doesn't feel good. And using the word entitled, and the hard part about being entitled to something is that it's a very, uh, internally based thing. It's because that you are feeling like you deserved or that you earned special treatment or special privileges or special results or services for something that you did.
It's a very internalized thing. Oftentimes, if you deserve or earn something, those are words used. externally by somebody saying that to you. That's where that should come into play more. When we say it ourselves, we get a little bit more scarce, a little bit more fear minded, a little bit more frustrated, minding, uh, frustrating minded, uh, a little bit more closed off.
We get a little bit more entitled. So when we think of that, the, the, the beauty of it is that there's a, there's a strong belief in yourself. [00:12:00] There's a huge positive there. Hopefully so much that you're not an asshole about it, meaning that you're arrogant, narcissistic, cocky, that type of thing, hubris. But you can be confident.
And then if you are open enough to understanding how things work for your health and fitness, you'll be able to really dive in and take an open look and understand that maybe the things that you were doing were good, but they either, A, weren't good enough, or they weren't the right things for you to be doing right now.
Or, what you did the last week, Three months, even though you did it the three months prior, doesn't work anymore. And that's okay. You have to now improve. We have to progress. Like, you are a different person than you were three months ago. You're stronger, bigger, faster, whatever the words are. So we have to treat the body as such.
But if we keep doing the same things over and over and expect the same results, It's your definition of insanity, right? It's
a definition of something. I know what it is. It's what
people say it is, but it's not the true, like, Webster. Not yet. Yes, yes. Okay. It is.
I thought you meant it as a different word, and I was like, ooh, I really messed that one up.
No, no, no. It is. It is. Okay. It [00:13:00] 100 percent
is. Um, but that's where people get caught. And then what happens is they feel like they deserve better. They feel like they've earned more than this. But they don't want to take responsibility or acknowledge, like, You know what? I am drinking too much alcohol. You know, I'm not sleeping well.
Yeah, you know what? I am sneaking some sweets in up far too often. You know what? I am not giving it my all in a session. You know, I haven't been getting my 10, 000 steps a day. And no, I haven't been eating protein. Yeah, my, what vegetables? What are vegetables? Like, then you start opened up, being opened up to look at it all.
When you close yourself off, you think that you're basically perfect, perfect, and you're chasing perfection and you're there. That, again, takes us that one step back.
Acknowledging and Overcoming Entitlement
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So the Entitled Health and Fitness Talk happened because there was a lot of people that we were working with and, uh, discussing on the outside looking in that were curious about joining Unity Fitness and getting a coach for us that seemed to have a little bit of that mindset.
Or there seemed to be people that went through the holidays that thought they crushed it, but they didn't want to acknowledge their 17 holiday parties And that they were eating sweets and sugar every single day and they wondered why their body hurt. [00:14:00] And why they were different. They were off. They were more ornery.
They were more irritable. They were anxious. And they want to blame it on health and fitness, which we'll talk about in another episode. But it's because the work that they were doing was good work, but it might not have been enough because they were cancelling it out with something else.
That's exactly where I was going with, and I was just having this conversation on the floor the other day about another thing where if we're going to do something that irritates the body, that prevents us from fully expressing or fully healing or fully diving into our training sessions with as much intention as the training sessions need to have to get all the results that we want to see from them.
We also have to recognize that either we have to stop doing that thing that's, Preventing us from doing so, right? We have to eat less sugar. We have to sleep, or let's not doing less, but we have to watch less TV. We have to use less screens at night so that we can sleep more, right? Or we have to do more of the things that help us [00:15:00] recover.
And sometimes it's a combination of both of those things. You were just talking about how you are a different person three months ago versus who you are today, maybe listening to this episode. That person might need different amounts of sleep. Different nutrition, different training programs, different approach to their training, right?
We can't continue to do the same thing. The body adapts. That's the beautiful thing about training. It will adapt to the demands that we put it under. However, at the same time, those demands constantly have to increase, those demands have to change to continue to meet our new, changing, improved self where it is at, right?
It's similar to squatting a goblet squat. You're using a 25 pound weight, and we've used a 25 pound weight since 2023, right? Perhaps it's time to just maybe try. We don't have to stick with it. The worst that happens is we can come down. Maybe 25 is exactly where your body needs to be. In that case, we maybe need to look at [00:16:00] other things.
But But maybe we just try a heavier weight, right? Or it could be as simple as that, it might be complex as something else, but as we dive in The openness and the willingness all underpin that. The ability to admit that, Hey, maybe, maybe that was wrong. Maybe I do need to approach this differently. Maybe my mindset around my training, nutrition, stress, whatever, I am overlooking something that is holding me back, and instead putting that external blame on things outside of my control, when there are way more things within our control that we can focus on to move the needle forward.
I mean, I think that's the big thing that sums up a lot of entitled health and fitness as we, as we wrap up here is that there's a lot of, um, it's an internal debate that we're having or an internal feeling that we're, self worth that, uh, we so strongly believe in what we deserve or earned to get there, right?
But, [00:17:00] a lot of that comes off as a victim mentality, which we've talked about before. A lot of it comes off externally. Like, like the, the person that is quote unquote entitled doesn't want to take ownership or responsibility over their stuff. They feel like they've done enough. They've earned enough. They deserved enough.
They've learned enough. They're good enough for everything. And, and that's a tricky spot to be in because again, that actually, that, that quote that I said earlier, you're already taking one step back and it closes you off for any other potential that you could have. So, um, when you were saying like the external factors earlier and all those things, like that person wants to blame it on everything else.
They don't actually want to take ownership over that and make that next move. Uh, we see this in, in, in people all the time, but we're specifically obviously addressing this in health and fitness standpoint. Because this is a, this is a mindset that we help people get out of if they're. Open
to it. If they're open to doing so.
Yeah. Yeah, but it's a it's a trick It's it's a tricky spot and and we wanted to bring it to light Because it's it's it's something that we all go through from time to time The sooner [00:18:00] that we can acknowledge it and be aware of it the sooner we can Um, just take a hold of it, grasp it, and move on in the right steps.
But the longer we sit in it, the more closed off we get, the farther behind we're actually getting. Which, again, makes it very more, much more difficult to make that next right step forward.
For sure. For sure. I think that's, that's the key, right? Like, we can't sit and judge ourselves for what we've done in the past, but we can acknowledge where we are currently, and the sooner we're able to do that, the sooner then we're able to move forward.
into the future, into making different decisions to drive us in the direction that we want to go versus feeling like we are staying stuck and we are spinning our wheels because that's not not a fun feeling. No one wants to be there. But it does take that bit of acknowledgement to say, Hey, this isn't where I want to be.
This is perhaps some of the reasons why I am here, how I am here. Cool. These are, this is how I'm going to change that toe to move forward
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Conclusion and Super Bowl Predictions
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People are [00:19:00] listening to this and it's a day after Who wins the Super Bowl?
Ooh.
Fortune teller.
I want to say Eagles.
I think the Eagles too.
Yeah. I think they're actually going to win by a lot, but we'll see.
I hope so.
All
right. As a Bills fan, I really hope so. Sorry to our Chiefs fan member online who I know listens to this podcast. Sorry about that. Sorry, Kim. Best of luck. Anyway, with that being said, thank you guys very much for listening to this week's episode of the OOFDA podcast.
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