[00:00:00] Welcome to the UFFDA! Podcast, hosted by Emily O'Connor and Jordan Rudolph. The UFFDA! Podcast brings you a surprisingly fresh take on everyday topics in health, fitness, and everything in between. We want to open the door to explore new information and new solutions in a way that's easy for you to understand and apply to your own life.
Let's get into today's episode.
Welcome to the UFFDA! Podcast
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Hello everybody, welcome back to the UFFDA! Podcast. I'm Jordan Rudolph. And I'm Emily Morris.
We are happy to be with you on Season 4, Episode 37. Yes. Right? Spot on. We are recording now, Kloee. What do you need now? Come on in. Come on in. She's walking away. [00:01:00] Oh, she's too afraid to be on the show. Coach Kloee thought, during our pre show recording, Pre show, before recording, pre recording, that we were recording and we weren't so she was being really quiet And now she actually walked in on us during recording.
I think she just wanted to say goodbye. We'll get her on the next episode.
Valentine's Weekend Recap
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But, uh, as we go through this we, uh, we hope that everybody is coming off of a fun Valentine's weekend whatever you did with your significant other or with people.
The Mid-February Resolution Slump
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And we're diving right into kind of like that concept of this new year and Honestly, we're middle of February, this is when, we said last episode, this is when 80 percent of the people are off the wagon already for their New Year's resolutions, this is when 90 percent or more are off the wagon.
Yeah, and it just keeps, unfortunately, kind of dropping off from there, but if you're listening to this, hopefully, chances are, you're looking to be, in that outlying percentage there from the average and everything that's studied and seen. So thank you for [00:02:00] listening as always. Um, but also hopefully this episode diving into something that oftentimes we don't really think about when we're on the journey.
Um, we try to muscle through maybe with some of the habits and the actions that we've talked about in previous episodes, but tapping into this piece of any goal, Kind of pursuit, right? Whether that be health, fitness, or otherwise can really unlock some big things, open up some doors, maybe hope might be holding us back and we don't even realize it when we're kind of going through it and when we're in it, if you will.
Yeah. And, and when that happens, it's easy. It's, it's, it's a, it's a, a free, I don't know if we use this before in the last couple of weeks, but it's a It's a phrase that was kind of introduced to me and I like it a lot and I've used it in a couple different clients and I used it including in the day of this podcast recording.
It leads to a lot of fear, leads to a lot of frustration, it leads to a lot of worry. And the thing about worry is that I've worried about a thousand [00:03:00] things in my life and most of them have never happened. So it opens us up to focusing more on fear, frustrations, worries, uh, and problems, which we know from our previous episodes if you are a long time listener, long time follower, That leads to all of those to eventually become true.
No matter what you do, it, what happens is your brain starts looking for those things and seeing those things. And you start worrying about everything. You literally start worrying about everything. You worry about you worrying. Right? When that happens, you also close yourself off to the growth, to the adaptation, to being opened.
Uh, opened up, uh, to, to, to kind of expanding, uh, you, you, you miss out on opportunity. You're closed off on opportunities all around you.
Understanding Trust in Yourself
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So we're talking about trust today and not necessarily how to build trust in others because to earn [00:04:00] trust, you have to give trust, but that starts with also giving and earning your trust of yourself.
not just from your partner, accountability partner, your spouse, your friends, your family, your coach. Trust starts with you. And when you are imposing your lack of trust on other people, it's actually because you don't trust yourself. I'm going to say that again and I'm going to have Emily come in here real hot and heavy on this next piece.
If you don't trust yourself, Your accountability partner, your friend, your spouse, um, somebody else that's doing this thing with you, your coach, if you're not trusting everything they say, it's because deep down you're not trusting yourself. And that can be a tough thing to hear, potentially, right? Like, if you're someone that's, um, thought about trust and thought about building [00:05:00] trust and maybe are going through a period right now where there is a lack of trust, right?
Just hearing that might open up some doors of like, Oh my gosh, like, how do I not trust myself? Right? Like, that's, that's the first thing that comes to mind for me.
Building Trust Through Actions
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So, as we start to unpack this and we start to talk about building trust with ourselves, we can kind of look at the past to first recognize where we might have lost some trust in ourselves.
Right? And we can use, you know, multiple different analogies, but to relate to like a body and a work outside, our bodies can't always talk to us in words, right? It can't, it's not like building a relationship or building trust with another person where you can have a conversation and words can play into that.
Um, we rely more heavily on actions and inputs and stimulus with our body versus Words and telling and saying things. So when we look for areas [00:06:00] of potential distrust or reasons to not be trusting of ourselves, we first look to where have we held up and done this things that we said we were going to do.
Right? Where have we proven ourselves maybe wrong in carrying through on an action? All those types of things can start to build some distrust with ourselves, where stimulus might be for the body of, we're telling ourselves, yes, I will get 10, 000 steps a day, for example. Right? And we know then, Logically, when we get 10, 000 steps a day, that can be a drop in the bucket of trusting ourselves to follow through with something we said we were going to do on the flip side, not doing those things.
While we can recognize that, like, there are very real reasons why we might not uphold something that we've told ourselves we're going to do, that can be an element [00:07:00] of distrust as well. So when we say we don't do the things we're going to say we're going to do, that can start to build that bucket and put another drop in that bucket of distrusting ourselves.
So we have to look at those and we, obviously, in building trust with ourselves, want to have more of those drops in the bucket, of trust and less of the distrust. And it's not only external actions either. It might be feelings, stimulus. It could be any number of things, but that's just an example.
Overcoming Distrust and Anxiety
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I mean, the biggest thing is there's a lot of this happening behind the scenes in our brain, that it comes off as different ways.
It comes off as worry. It comes off as fear. It comes off as frustration. It comes off as anxiety. It comes off in numerous different feelings, sensations, emotions. It might not seem trust as itself right away, and especially if we don't take a moment to be intentional, be [00:08:00] aware, and also take that split second moment to be thinking about it.
So it shows up in different forms. But at the root of it all, it's very likely that this is still trust. and a trust issue, the distrust component. And if we go back to numerous different calls that we've done, sorry, podcasts that we've done in previous, um, weeks, even, not even just the last couple of months, like 2025 podcasts.
And we look at these, what we see during that is there's, there's a lot of stuff happening in the subconscious mind that actually has us operating in a certain way. in an unconscious matter. Like the things that we're doing without us really knowing what or why we're doing it. We're just kind of in that autopilot mode.
Once again, the brain wants autopilot as often as possible. This is why it's hard to create change and introduce new concepts and new [00:09:00] things to people because your brain wants autopilot and it will always try to default back to that. This is why some of these things could be considered a skill, considered a skill.
you learning how to trust yourself. Might not feel comfortable right away, like Emily said, right off the bat. But, if you work on it, if you practice it, and you continue to practice it, it is a skill for a moment until it becomes something that you do. And I'm not saying that you need to trust every single thing out there, but you'll have areas or certain parts where you can really dive in and have this be a little bit more focus or intention behind it to get you closer to where you want to be.
But when that little, little speck of anxiety comes up, that little worry that comes up in the back of your head when you're, when you're committing to something or you're thinking about committing to something or you say yes to something, oftentimes that's the subconscious behind you like, yeah, there's no fucking chance you're doing this.[00:10:00]
Yeah, there's no way you're going to follow through with that. And then guess what happens? You start listening to that and then it comes true. The goal is here to acknowledge when that's happening and consider it at the base level, at the root level. Wow, I don't trust myself with that. How can I break this down to do something that I can trust?
Using an example M that you just mentioned. 10, 000 steps a day. Yeah, I can do that. Yep, I can do it. Well, can you do it? Are you going to do it? Like, is it going to happen? Yep, yeah, I can do it. Okay. But then again, if you leave that conversation or if that's something that you say you're going to do, but you actually know deep down, you're driving away, you're walking away like, yeah, there's no way I'm going to do that.
Right? That's, that's, again, this is what's happening. Let's put something on there that you know you can do, that you can trust and you can get behind. And guess what the other skill that you build in that process is? I'll wait for your answer. Just shout it through the screen. What else are we building in that process of building more trust?
[00:11:00] Confidence. Confidence. Experience. Building your more confidence in that side of things. Huh. That sounds like a really nice win. Double whammy. Two birds with one stone. Absolutely.
Creating a Plan for Success
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One of My favorite way is to look at some of those questions that come up of like, oh gosh, like, I don't know if I can do this and some of that questioning is to almost start to answer those questions, right?
Like, what would get in the way of you doing that, right? Let's turn it into like, identify what the roadblocks are. Like, what are we actually worried about, right? Instead of worrying about the unknown and the things that Again might not even happen. Let's put some tangible things there, right? Let's put some roadblocks that might actually come up and let's come up with solutions when that happens, right?
We're bringing those out then of the subconscious mind We're bringing that then into the action steps and things that we can actually change in our behavior to make that a realistic [00:12:00] goal, like Jordan was saying, to have it be something that you can accomplish. Not that you think you can, that you will accomplish.
That you're ready, willing, able, capable of doing all the things. Better yet, we know that it's not going to go perfectly smooth. So when we know what the potential roadblocks would be, and list them out, write them down, come up with solutions when they happen, that's You've already then created the plan to overcome them.
So you don't even have to be worried about in the moment of like, Oh my gosh, what am I going to do now? You have the answer already. We've worked through that. We know what lies ahead and what kind of we need to do and how our behaviors need to change to move forward from that. How nice does that sound?
Like, you just even saying that, I'm like, oh, that's, that's really nice. You just, you create the plan, right? Right, right. And then in the moment, less decisions, all the things. You just. And you let it rip. Green lights. Right, writing it down is even better, because then you, you literally have it written down on a piece of paper.
Like, oh, I know, I, I remember [00:13:00] worrying about this. I remember questioning this. What was my answer if I don't remember? It is on paper, written down for you to reference. So the big part of here when we're talking about building trust. The trust starts with you. You have to work on trusting yourself and believing in your abilities to get things done.
And making sure that you're giving yourself enough ability, enough practice, enough grace, enough compassion, and enough, uh, ableness, and when I say that ready, willing, and able, like something that you can do. You can't be unfair to yourself for that, where the grace and compassion comes in. . You do those things you trust in yourself.
You're not gonna lose boundaries, you're not gonna lose freedom because towards others. What'll happen is you'll have better relationships. You'll have more pure, genuine relationships with those friends, spouses, family, workout partner, just accountability partner, your coach. Those things will become 20, 30, [00:14:00] 40, 50 times better because you are in such a good place in this.
it will make everything else better around you. Build the trust that way, let it cascade and overflow into everything else. For sure. For sure. And it'll cascade beyond health and fitness as well. You'll get to see it in every single element and aspect of your life, which is pretty cool. A hundred percent.
Awesome.
Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts
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That about sums it up as always. Thank you guys so much for listening to this week's episode of the UFFDA! Podcast. Share this with someone who you think will find it valuable. Leave us a rating, a review, subscribe, download, all the things that help us to grow organically and we'll catch you in the next episode.
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